I was having a rough day a couple weeks ago. I’d gotten some frustrating news and it was having its way with my emotions. I walked into a meeting at the day gig with my mind all over the place. It was obvious. So obvious that I vented to a colleague that knows some of the intricacies of my extra curricular life. You might think that’s a no-no in the workplace, but I found it better to disclose that I was distracted than sit there not being my complete self.
She asked if there was anyway she could help. I voiced a little more frustration. Then she told me a story about a similar situation she had and what she learned.
And within ten minutes, I was calm. Completely calm. The frustrating news became an opportunity for personal development. Next thing I knew we were talking about a course of action to turn my quagmire into a success story. This conversation completely changed my perspective on the challenge and how I’ll approach similar ones in the future. We then had a productive conversation about what we were supposed to be discussing.
The biggest lessons I relearned:
- It’s okay to let people know you have stuff on your mind. Most are understanding, and if anything, will want to help. A little vulnerability never hurt anybody. (Though I’d ask that you use discretion in what and who you share it with.)
- Tough situations, frustrations, challenges; they’re are tests. How you respond and flip them into success stories is where you develop as a person. And that story becomes a story you can tell someone else to help them navigate whatever they’re going through. When you help yourself succeed, you’re in a better position to help others succeed.
Who doesn’t like that?